Let us think of children. We have brothers and sisters and childhood friends. These are all relationships. Yet as time goes by, in many cases , we drift apart and even sever some of these relations.We place little or no value. In our life span we encounter new and varied relationships.

Why do we allow this to happen? After all, time is short and the lease of life which we are given on this earth is limited. ????

What is remarkable? The fact that embedded in our memories is that trace of each of these relationships.. In our memories the highlights, positive or negative never seem to go away. We never really forget.

The complexity of a personality does not lie completely in genetics. We begin to see differences in the personalities of small children born of the same parents even in the early months of their lives.

What we should observe is the environment and the things a child hears and sees and how these factors influence the maturing process.

Think what would happen to a baby if removed from all relationships at birth and placed in total isolation even from the mother. There would be no intelligence and nothing to remember. What a terrible thought ?????? Yet, we who are so fortunate to have this very vital connection with our mothers and others from birth, place little or no value on relationships. Some of us go to extremes to sever them.

Before we define relationships we must understand that we are discussing “HUMAN RELATIONSHIP” and the way people interact.

We could talk about relationships in the work place, in the home, on public transport, or anywhere where people exist. This about the way people interact.

What seems to stand out is sensitivity and awareness. respect for others and the space they lease and share.

A successful relationship is not accomplished by some magical formula which we think just happened.

Where we are today in life is the result of convention. Convention results in standards, rules and laws, progress, a sense of direction for the advancement of the world. We are constantly evolving as people and hopefully as a result, the human race becomes better and more advanced. None of this is accidental or magical.

It goes back to the Human brain, a mass of very delicate cells , activated by oxygen gathered from the air we breathe and supported by other chemicals in the body. It is the most powerful organ in the human body, a massive memory loaded with basic intelligence at birth, but with tremendous potential. The brain is fed information by elaborate sensors such as eyes for sight. Ears for hearing. The sense of smell, taste, touch .These send information to the brain. The brain having such a great capacity stores all information endlessly.

It would be a beautiful thing if all brains were totally healthy at birth and had the same capacity. Unfortunately this is not so and even worse now we introduce pollution into the unborn body through the foods we eat, the air we breathe, and more over , the junk we smoke, inject and ingest.

Why are we talking about the baby and the brain at that early stage of life ?????

Because those sensors in the early years of the child gather all the things we do and say in the brain’s memory bank. We can call it experience.

If a baby never saw an apple or tasted an apple, that child would never know of its existence. We taught the child to taste it and associate it with the smell. Simple things like that remain embedded in the brain for ever. It seems natural to us and we take it for granted.

There is another sense which is always taken for granted and has not yet been mentioned in this article.It is that which connects the individual with the rest of the world. It is that thing within any individual which says , “Here comes Jack but I do not want to talk to him now”, That thing which says “I do not want” or “I love”. That sense is that individual itself and is constantly communication with the memory bank in the brain. It is love, it is hate, it is beauty, kindness, generosity, interaction with others.

It is every emotion which the human being can experience. It is that person and that personality.

Children traditionally acquire certain traits from adults. Most of these already exist in the adults from childhood. This is perpetuation. This is what life is about. It is you, it is me, it is all humans.

It therefore seems important that adults exhibit love and kindness. and so many other positives like respect, appreciation, balance, living in harmony, tolerance, understanding, compromise, sensitivity, awareness, compassion.

None of this comes into a personality by accident.

So, what do we have ??? Bad behavior in adults. People who cannot show appreciation or say “thank you”. People who cannot recognize the needs of others. We have rage. We have people who are so self centered that they live almost in isolation and make little or no contribution to the perpetuation of society or to the human race.

Fortunately all humans are not that way.

Bad behavior in children…………………..Some adults try to correct that.

Bad behavior in adults…………………… Not much can be done to change that.

How sad!

We are intended to create a better society and a better world. To perpetuate and make things better.We must pay special attention to the children. and attempt to instill in their memory banks the things which are positive and which make life easier and make the world a better world.The “negatives” they will sooner or later learn even without our assistance.

May be, just maybe, we would have less crime, less wars, less murders , less division of families , less misunderstandings, less negativity if the children could be supported during their early years..

Most people when asked the simple question “what is the purpose of life” either they cannot give an answer or they come up with a real disconnected answer. They simply do not know.

The history of this world as developed by mankind, has shown greed, wars, deception, division, and in general, negativity.

Yes! There has been progress and yes there has been evolution or we would not be where we are today. But there is much negativity. How painful and how slowly we progress.

The very organizations which profess to be helping can not agree and they divide within them selves. further confusing the very people they are serving. These have been responsible for almost all wars throughout history. They fight , they kill, they destroy.

As one great man once said…”Man’s inhumanity to man”

Should he have said……………”Man’s inhumanity to MANKIND”